A couple of weeks ago my friend and avid reader of Perfect Imperfection (hehehehe) Terry (hey girl) sent me a facebook invite to an event called Tell Her She's Beautiful. I immediately kissed my teeth and proceeded to click the ignore button but something told me to take a look and I’m glad I did. This “event” was created for you to take the time out to tell all women in your life that they are beautiful because we all are, in our own unique way.
I grew up feeling very unattractive. I never was the same size as the girls in my class, I never dressed like them, and even my hair was different. I hated my nose and swore I was going to get a nose job when I turned of age. I wish there was someone to just look at me and say, you’re beautiful just the way you are.
Because I understand the struggle of being a pre teen and early teenager and not fitting in society’s image of being perfect, I’ve made it a habit of telling the two important teenage girls in my life, my little cousin Kaylah and god daughter Martina, how beautiful they are. But I just don’t focus on outward beauty; I stress the importance of accepting and loving who are and being beautiful on the inside because that’s where it matters most. I’ll continue to spread the word to my younger cousins and nieces as they get older, that beauty is how you feel inside and it will reflect in your eyes and radiate from your spirit.
Who would have thought this self conscious, awkward 13 year old with the crooked smile, horrible choice of glasses, thick eyebrows, naturally curly hair and mouth full of metal would have turned into this intelligent, educated, self assured, beautiful goddess (yes I called myself a goddess).
So take some time out of your schedule today and tell the women in your life how beautiful they are!
*Cue my outro: Unpretty by TLC* lol
“Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart." Khalil Gibran, (1883 - 1931)
YES!!!!! I so love this post. I went through the same thing, nerdy girl, with glasses, braces, kinky hair and oh did i mention im dark skinned. So you can only imagine what i went through. By college all those insecurities were gone and i embraced my beauty!!! So to all the girls out there who are dying to be the next Beyonce and Rihanna, God made you unique embrace what he gave you Flaws and all!!!
ReplyDeleteI have been struggling for far too long! Even now I allow my insecurities to get the best of me. In a world where being bootylicious and curvaceous is the acceptable standard I struggle with being skinny. I have tried everything to gain weight and child the genetics keeps fighting me! So you have spoken to me and thanks for the empowerment today, I hope I can grow accept who I am....skinny legs and all!
ReplyDeleteAwww Nikki this post glistened my eye (i didn't let the tear fall though) anyways... i LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE it. The part of feeling unattractive surprised the heck outta me, I never would have thought. But it definitely goes to show that even one of the prettiest girls u know could have had insecurities.
ReplyDeletevery raw and transparent... I liked.
LOL@ "avid reader" I've kept up with ur 5 blog post..lol
and double LOL @ "cue music" I imagined u walking off the podium while ur audience looked on in amazement and confusion as the confident goddess exits the room.
This was good Nicki!! So encouraging! I'm kind of having that issue now. Cal, friends, fam everyone thinks I'm beautiful but i definitely have my insecurities about certain things:body, hair,face. But I am trying to be positive and not think negatively about those things. My inner beauty should be worked on which will probably bring up my confidence!! Love ya hun!! Keep these blogs coming!
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ReplyDeleteomg... I can totally relate to this one. At age 14, all I was concerned about was my physical appearance, and how I compared to the video girls and models.
ReplyDeleteI was nothing like them. I was tall, doofy, dark, heavier than all my friends, with boobs and no ass. The typical white girl shape. My mom called me Marilyn Monroe, because she said my ass was wide and flat like hers. I wanted the coca cola bottle shape and the airbrushed skin. I was this was way for many years, until I finally fell in love with myself at age 22.
My #1 Advice to young Women, chit, women in general... is to Love yourself..The inner you to the outer you.. and remember...
"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference."
C'est Moi, Samii™ out...