Sometimes I feel I'm going to miss out on a good thing because I'm drawn to something that might not exist. I've come across some great guys in my adult life: educated, ambitious, God- fearing, mature, looking for a serious relationship, totally into me, no issues or baggage etc and I've passed them up. Why you ask? I'm almost embarrassed to say but I will- I'M NOT ATTRACTED TO THEM and not because they're bad looking or anything but:
Because they don't send that shiver down my spine; when they touch me I don't feel the electricity; when I know I'm going to see them I don't get butterflies; I don't mix up my words out of nervousness when I speak to them; I don't feel the need to constantly smile just because I'm in their presence; I don't get that overwhelming sensation to kiss them in a middle of a conversation; I don't feel like stalking them via facebook, skype, bbm, text messages, etc...lol
You probably think I watch too many movies or read too romance novels but I've actually experienced these feelings, some even recently, but for reasons beyond my control nothing has come out of it. Am I wrong for wanting someone to elicit the emotions I described above and posses the characteristics of the ones that I've left behind?
Sometimes I think I need to grow up and just give it a chance because maybe those feelings will develop... but will they? Am I selling myself short by settling with someone I'm compatible with, makes me laugh, adores me, who I can build a life/future, and grow to love but never be totally head- over- heels in love with?
What are your thoughts?
AWWW Nikki Nicole this is so adorable!!!
ReplyDeleteBut no your not selling yourself short @ all, y not get what you want..wait i meant get wat u "deserve" from a potential mate. I could say from experience, Id have those feelings for the wrong ones lololol and the one I never even thought of having anything with turned out to be the one worth keeping. As u stated give it a "chance" to see if those feelings can/will develop....
~Taj B.
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ReplyDeleteIT SURE D0ES EXIST!!!
ReplyDeleteI Like what Vixen23 Wrote (hehehe)...
Girl wanting those feelings are perfectly normal and quite refreshing because unlike most of women, you actually know what you want. And trust me, you will get it. I honestly prayed to God for the man I have right now and surely he answered me.
Those feelings you seek are important in a relationship, it keeps things, spicy and interesting and I am glad that you are not settling just because someone has their life intact, that chemistry and romance is needed.
C'est Moi, Samii™...out!!
Awwww...I believe there's nothing wrong with going after what it is you want in a partner. But at the same time it is possible to have those same feelings form with someone you least expect. I think we as women use movies and the books we read to dictate how we should love and what to look for. Sometimes we have the ideal guy in our face but choose to be with the one we know damn well isn't the one! The same way you end up loving the one who gives you those fuzzy feelings, you can end up loving the one you thought you couldn't.
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I so agree with Naomi, but I also believe ppl usually fall in love with the one they least expect. I think ppl put too much into that whole love at first sight or lust at first sight mentality cause when you dont get those feelings you start to question the person.
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