Look I hate when my friends are upset with each other, plain and simple. I think we should agree to disagree but never to the point of not speaking to each other and I absolutely hate being caught in the middle.
As friends we have to be able to give and accept advice and criticism from people we love and who love us. How can you truly be friends with someone but you can't call them out when they are wrong or make bad decisions? I remember when my home girl Tanica cautioned me about my ex. I can't recall exactly what she said but I do remember it rubbing me the wrong way but you know what they say about hind sight being 20/20? Well looking back she was absolutely correct. She was the only friend brave enough to voice her concern. Even though I didn't listen to her, she continued to support me regardless of my choice so she did her part as my girl.
Ladies when you have REAL friends, listen to what they say. Know they aren't coming to you with ulterior motives, hate or jealousy. We also have to remember to respect the decisions our friends make even if we don't agree. So to my real friends, my girls I want you to feel comfortable telling me when I'm acting a fool, when I'm not doing right, or when my heart is in jeopardy of being broken and I also expect you to respect my decision if it goes against your opinion.
*Cue my outro * Girl by: Destiny's Child
I LOVE THIS!!! and yes i completely agree with no matter what accepting & respecting your friends decisions.....No ones here to be what u want them to be but, I wouldnt call u "my girl" if you werent the 1st to call me out on the wrong decision Im makin even if i dont listen, It still lets me know this person thought about me & care
ReplyDeleteWell said Poyz.. Real friends should be able to give and take constructive criticism. I think there is also a line of respect that one should not cross. There are so many ways to let someone know that they deserve better or are making a mistake without disrespecting or hurting that persons feelings. I've exercised that approach. Yes! We all relay things different but just because your intent is good? Doesn't mean your approach will be. And 9 times outta 10, its the way something is said not what is actually being said that becomes the problem.
ReplyDeleteI absolutely agree with you Sam 100%
ReplyDeleteIm all about telling my friends what they dont want to hear, especially when I see what they dont. True friendship is the next best thing to being a family member. I would protect my family members to death and I'll do the same for my true friends.
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